Thursday, May 14, 2009

Ippadiyum sila manidhargal

We are looking for alliances for my sister. We get to know a lot of people, families in this process. Some are really good to know and we feel part of their family. Some are weird and we are happy that they show their attitude now and not later. Sila per solrathu elaam sirichutu vitudalaamnu thonum. Sila per solrathu hurting'a irukum.

A few dialogues that we came across:

* After exchanging the family details, photo, horoscope, phone calls, our Josiyar said that a guy's horoscope is not suitable. But payan veetla jaadhagam elaam nalla irukunu sonaangha. So, we arranged for a meet, and the guy was so weird in his activities (needs a separate post). 2/3 days naangha elaam yosichutu, my mom called the guy's father and told that we will not be able to take this further. That gentle man is a lawyer, so he was so commanding in the whole process.
He immediately shouted and said "evlo problems unghalalaa. payan photo kaekareengha, email id kaekereengha, torture paniteengha".

* Another pen paarkum padalam. Payan amma, appa, paati, chithi, chithappa, mama etc everyone came to see my sis. At the end, my mom asked them when it would be possible for us to meet the groom.
payan paati: oh unghaluku payana paakanumaaa?
my mom: ??!?!!

* Recent'a we got 3-4 profiles from a matrimony center. Amma dhaan oru list pottu, elaar details'um ezhuthi, fulla maintain panitu irukaangha. Once the horoscope matched, she called a groom's father, to ask for the guy's recent photo.
His father: "unghaluku idha munaadiyae en payan expectation solanum"
Amma (wondering): oh ponnu education/work expectation irukaangha?
Father: "ennana, avan daily'ae oru oru foreign country ku pora maathri velai irukum. Veedu kooda vaangitaan. So, avan status ku ponnu irukanumnu nenaikaraan."
Amma (still confused): oh apdineenghala
FAther: "adhaan oru Flat'um oru car'um ponuku koduthurungha"
Amma (manasula sirichutae): "apdeenghala..saringha, photo paathutu naan apram pesaren"

She marked a X mark for this guy in her list :-) (phone'la idha solrappa sema comedya irunthathu).

Ippadiyum inum makkal irukaangha. OMG!

J

27 comments:

Me said...

aren't you glad that you did not go through all this...it is so stressful

..believe it or not...i hear so much stuff from guys side too...it is crazy these days in desi marriage market...everybody wants everything..nobody wants to compromise ...

J said...

I did go through all these. I knew A only for a month before the engagement. Before that we were going through the same process (Tamil Matrimony and other center/sites) for like 8-9 months.

I know! whatever you said is so true. It takes some time to realize that nobody is perfect :)

Me said...

oho...appo i have to say...i am glad that i did not go thru all these...:))

..btw do you know.. some parents ask for W2 along with horoscope...LOL!

J said...

ayayooo sutham :) antha alavuku naangha inum pola. photo, horoscope vaangarathukae engaluku podhum podhum aayiduthu...They get our stuff first, they visit us and if they like then they send us the guy's photo. apdiyae oun munaadi anupina, that will be an oldddd photo..Still people are following that 'payan veedu osathi' status. UNoHu solra maathri "rombbbaa mosam" (I like the way she says that :))

Me said...

yes...i did hear such a thing...guys parents get everything and they don't give his photo...what kind of an idiot will not give his photo...atleast edhachum website upload pannirkalam la...i have no other reason other than they thinking..payan veedu osathi

preethi said...

Neenga solraradhu sari dhaan J...i was lucky, ungala mathiri dhaan. i knew my hubby exactly one month before the marriage..our engagement was on the morning of the wedding day.
When my friend's parents had given her pic to a family the guy's sister dint like it coz she thot the gal was very conservative in the saree...hehehe yen friend'u andha foto'kaga dhaan saree kattinanradhu avungalukku theriyadhu!
Know wat i know a gal who rejected an alliance bcoz she wanted a mappillai who worked in the same technology as her...LOL idhai yellam enga poi solrathu :)

J said...

Me - hhmm ya. intha maathri pala per kelambi irukaangha pola :)

Preethi - same industry is fine but same technology?!! ahaa :)

IBH said...

hmmm! abbada! finallay idhulam thandi en thangaikkuy kalyanam panniyachu pa

Phew! trust me! I have gone through this and more! nanum ammavum than idhu fulla panninom! and was not an easy joke at all!

J said...

IBH - Congrats on your sis' wedding :) I can feel that "abbada" :))

Me said...

IBH...ennoda relatives...J oda sis..bro jaathagam laam fwd pannalama?

J said...

Me - naangha elaam evlo seriousa pesitu irukom..unghaluku enna nakkal nadula? :)

Me said...

IBH...nallavanga na idhu maari social service laam pannuvaanga...

IBH neenga nallavangala illa...

J said...

lol:))

Sriram said...

"oh unghaluku payana paakanumaaa?" - lol. classic!

J said...

Sriram - :-) ennatha solrathu hhmm

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Me said...

romba naal aachey...hi sollalam nu vandhen

J said...

Hi Hi :-) Sorry for the late reply, Me.

Gradwolf said...

enna koduma saar idhu only!!

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preethi said...

Hi J,
neenga post panradillainnu ungala yaaro chinese'la thiteerkanga pola ;-)...btw chinese'a, japanese'a???

J said...

lol :) I thought I deleted that comment ...dho panren :))

J said...

Gradwolf - adhe dhaan..thanks for dropping by!

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AMIT said...

The paper work is so boring while going through all this.


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Sree's Views said...

I heard a different side of the story.

http://srisviews.blogspot.com/2010/10/bride-search.html