Ok, if you are thinking wats so special abt the call, here is the story behind - The marriage alliance which came for me last month, there was a misunderstanding between our families (mine and periyappa). As always, we were the victim. As my periyappa family is well settled, they generally raise their voice and command us. They asked the groom's family to come down to their place (my native) for which those ppl said "no" for some reason. So my periyappa and periamma treated that as their prestigious issue and unmercifully shouted at us by saying this to my amma - "naangha elam avangha veetuku poga maatom. nee venumna un thambi'ya kootitu poi elam pesi mudi. apram phone pani solu." we were really shocked, well not really, as we know their behaviour. But then, intha maathri kalyana vishayathila konjam enghaluku supportive;a irupaanghanu nenachom. cos they are not going to spend even a rupee. Ellam naan(gha) thaan paathuka porom. athuku chumma oru thalamai kaavathu panuvanaghanu nenachom (nenachutu irukom).
Ah, me not very concerned abt this but ammaku "appa illathathunala, periyappa elam eduthu senjaanghanu per edukanum. chumma ithungha paatu ennamo panraanghanu yaarum nammala thappa solla koodathu". But hhmm namaku theriyuthu aana avanghaluku yaar puriya vaikarthu. Will they ever change?.
Anyway, so this has happened two weeks back and there was no communication between us after that. Now, we are going to our native place this week. And we are forced to stay at their place only. so we have been discussing at home, when to call them, wat to speak to them without hurting them or getting hurt by them (this is true). poonaiku yaar mani katrathunu !! Hmm seyaatha thappukaaga bayapdrathuna ithu thaan.
me - "ohh, enna sonnaangha. ozhungha pesinaanghala???"
Amma: "ozhungha thaan pesinaangha."
naan: "enna sonna intha alliance drop pannathu pathi".
Amma: "naanaa onum start pannalai, avanghalae kaetaangha. athu ennachu nu. naanum onum theriyatha maathri "ethu"nu kaeten. athuku periyamma, "athaan neeyaaa ponnai kootitu poi un thambi veetla kaatrenu soniyaee".
pause - actually, since they said that they wont be going, my amma has planned to visit the groom's place with her brother (my maama). Hydla irunthu thaniya poga ammaku bayam. my sis exams irunthathu. so needless to say, naan thaan ammava kootitu ponum. ipdi aarambichathu thaan intha topic. kadisila, they are saying like this. This sounded very bad to my amma and she struggled to talk further. But then she samalichufied and said "we dropped that.".
periyamma - "YYY???"
Amma - "athaan neengha poi pesa maatenu soliteenghalae ka. aarambathulaya prachanai irukarthunala vendaamnu solitaa (me)".
Then my amma did not allow to talk abt that further and started saying abt our visit to their (my native) place. actually ennoda athai ponu wedding 'kaaga porom.
Amma - "naangha intha week varom. Yashodha akka (avangha veetla thaan marriage) veetuku vara soli irukaangha".
periyama udanae dhadaaladiyaa : "En angha poreengha. nera ingha vanthudungha. veetla saaptu apram polaam."
Amma - "sari akka. varom."
then usual nalam visaripugal.
Amma to me : "avangha entha meaningla sonnaanghanae theriyalai. appolaenthu manasu aruthutu iruku". she started crying.
me: "vidu ma. avangha avangha paavam avangha avanghaluku. en thaan ipdi avangha pasanghaluku paavam saekraanghalo".
Note: intha maathri neriya vaati avangha hurt pani irukaangha. athaan intha maaathri statement from me :(
Amma: "illa, avanghaluku elam irukarthunaala thaanae ipdi namma pesina kashtapaduvaanu therinjae pesaraangha. en ipdi irukaangha??"
me: (munnadi nadanthathu elam gavanam vanthu, orae thondai varaikum kashtam adachutu apdiyae) silent.
Hmm...
apram we came back to normalcy (athu generally nadakum - kongham neram azhuthutu, apram apdiyae kindala maathi, pazhaya nelamaiku vanthuduvom) and my amma was saying "kutram paarkin sutram illai. chummava sonaangha. inum angha pona piragu ennavellam nadaka poratho. GOK !!"
Engha veetla ellarukumae sense of humour kongham jaasthi. athanala thaan intha maathri aalungha irunthaalum vaazha mudiyuthu :))
13 comments:
hey J,
this post has touched my heart...believe I have always been in that club :)....veetuku veedu vasa padi...anyways...in my marriage i had the same problem except that it was worse than what i expected...me being a tam bram got married to a mal guy was like one big thing in our small world...but who cares as long as they come for the marriage and just eat and go ....dont worry gal.... ( i know u are strong...) ellam nanmaike..evlo nalu than atam poduranga...avlo nalu lam poda mudiyadhu...
"Andavan nallavagala rombha sodhipen and kai vida mattan..
kettavangala elam kuduthu kadaisile kai vittuduvan"..
engayo ketta madiri iruku..something like what thaliavar said in Baasha :)
ohh IBH, thanks for ur comment :) I know I will feel better if I post this and see ppl' comments :( naatla nalavanghalum irukaangha la. ivangha elam en ipdi irukaangha? inoruthar manasu kashtapada vaikarthu elam kathukita thaan enaku elam. I cannot do that at alll. therinjae en thappu panraangha :'(
Ah anyway..hhmm yes veetuku veedu vaasa padi :))
C'mon how can I forget thalavar's dialogue..intha maathri cinemala vara dialogues elam thaan tonic appapa enaku :))
thanks,
J.
J, u will be in my prayers always. Hope u feel better soon.
Came here from ur comment on CM's post. Nice post. Totally echo IBH's comment. Ennadhaan irundhalum you are the one who's gonna be THE gal. Stay strong and positive.
IBH/J: On a lighter note, Thalai's lines fit every situation.
Ah Ah akkaraiya ketta ah ah artham nooruda!
mmm..Uravugal.. idha pola ellam pakkurappa ennapola mama,chithappa,perippa,athai.,etc., yaarum illama irundhadhe betternu thonuthu... indha relative words ellam naan en akka kayanam aana appuramthaan first pesinen( u know, it is very tough to get used to after u have grown up:) )
I know how you feel..U r strong gal J.
Poruthaar poomi alwar... aana itha follow panrathu evalavu kashtamnu enakku theriyum...
take care J..my prayers...
And then.. sense of humor is a good survival tool :)
Hey J,
felt sad after reading your post.
I think God wants us to learn something from every situation.
You will come out as a strong, mature and a more understanding person at the end of each trial.
Just Hang in there, gal!
With love and Prayers,
Raji
Avanga thalamaiku varalaena enna,
unga blog friends naanga ellam serndhu kalyanathai tadapudala nadathiromnu amma kittae sollunga.
Take care dear..
Raji
J,
This post left me so depressed!
Wonder why people are like this... they shud understand that unga kalyanam avaru nadathi vekkanum is only for society sake... not that ur family is dependent on them! Ennamo avanga ungaloda kadavul madiri nenappu!! I have a similar periyappa u see (who dominates the hell out of my dad), so can completely identify...
U'll be in my prayers... Dont worry, you'll get married to a gem of a guy, who'll take great care of you n ur mom... and then to hell with ur other relatives!
Guess elaar veetliyum oru kadhai irukunnu!!! Well...
I am guessing ur Periappa and Periamma dont know that u blog.. Hmmm ;)
All the best with ur marriage.. I'll send my veetu address thru email.. Ozhungaa invitation anupunga... Kalyaana saapadu saaptu konja naal aadhu!!! :D
Vikkki
I feel andha madiri alunga irundha than J nammala suthi irukure nalla alungalyum nammanala identify panna mudiyum ...i think that is in one way god's gift...illena ellarum nalla irundha we wont appreciate good people around us rite...we wont appreciate good creations of god rite...
all is well that ends well..so gal my prayers are all with u!
wat say j....ellam neengalay solliteenga.....there were different phases in my life were i cried, fought, got irritated, felt bad, wounded...
been mocked, laughed at, verbally abused...
more they pushed me down, higher i came.....got into engg college, somehow managed to come out with a job, earned, got into grad school.....i am in a far better position than all other kids in the family....they even have gone to extent of scolding my grad father (paternal) when he speaks abt me....(i am his chella peran and he always talks abt me....without him i wouldn't be in this position)
dont worry j...good things will happen soon....everything that happens is for good...and don't think this is summa dialog...i have numerous exp to give....
over senti ya making me :(....
How sweeeeeeet all of you :) I am so glad that I have friends like you :) ellaroda commentsum romba romba romba consoling'a irunthathu. thanks elam sonna romba formal'a poyidumnu paakren :-)
SK - I know I know :)
anti - thanks for dropping by. Thalaivar's line - Yes, really true la !
Krish - Hmm..ellarkum relatives ipdi iruka maatangha, Krish. nallavangha, supportive'a irukaravangha kooda neriya irukaangha. mmm
Raji - that was soo nice to hear from ur words :)
Nithya - :-) naan thitra maathri neenghalum orae thiti thiti haha :)
Vikki - oh no..avangha elam inum oor ellaila irunthu veliya varavae illai hehe :) computer, software, net, blog athelam pathi no chance ..theriyavae theriyathu..so safe ba :)
IBH - ya seriously neengha solrathu correct. I completely agree with u :) thanks for ur prayers ma :)
Me - hmm enna solrathu (neengha sonnathu ippa naan solren) good that ippa kongham namma nalla irukom. illana nenachu paakavae bayama iruku enaku :(
"everything that happens is for good" - I strongly believe this sentence. Yup, I too have a numerous exp :))
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